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In no other age can so many people have harboured such intense ambitions to become writers. The longing one day to turn out a book probably a novel or, less likely, an autobiography lies close to the center of Continue Reading

It could seem like a strange topic to be discussing. It doesn’t come up much in polite company. Yet we know that as many as 35 per cent of US and UK males under 50 will be struggling with Continue Reading

We’ve been wasting all day on the internet. One diversionary click turned into a thousand. It started with a news site and ended up in some very silly or very vile (or both) places. We’ve seen stuff we should Continue Reading

The decision whether one should stay or leave is one of the most consequential and painful any of us ever has to make. On any given day, many millions of people worldwide will be secretly turning the issue over Continue Reading

One of the peculiar facets of our minds is that we may choose to feel anxious rather than to confront things that may be yet more painful or emotionally awkward in our lives. It can be easier to fret than to know ourselves properly.

Because shyness can grip us in such powerful ways, it’s tempting to think of it as an immutable part of our emotional make-up, with roots that extend far into our personality and perhaps biology – and that we would Continue Reading

The traditional way to try to reduce the chances of someone having an affair is to focus on controlling their actions and outward movements: not letting them go to social events without us, calling them at random times or Continue Reading

We hear a lot about genius. We are taught to admire the minds of those infinite, baffling but astonishing geniuses like Einstein, Tolstoy or Picasso. Quite what genius might actually be is left a little vague. It’s a codeword Continue Reading

Warning – Incredibly long article ahead but Equally Incredibly Useful and Honest One – So please spare some focused time and have pen and paper Part I: The Project of Self-Realisation  1. We devote major portions of our time Continue Reading

It’s the middle of the night, let’s imagine, and we’ve been on the earth for about three months. A lot is still very unclear. We are profoundly helpless, barely able to move our own head and utterly at the Continue Reading

Over the past decade, technologies have completely changed the way we connect with each other. The benefits of the internet are obvious and all around us. But the risks and dangers are more subterranean, and we need to start Continue Reading

Imagine someone who is deeply efficient. Their life is full of the best sorts of habits. They always take a break on Wednesday afternoon (unless there’s a crisis) and play a game of tennis or go swimming. They always Continue Reading

In undertaking the quietly momentous task of telling someone that we don’t wish to be friends with them anymore, we face a practical and a theoretical hurdle. Strikingly, the practical issue is by far the easiest to address. The Continue Reading

A party at the house of a friend, eleven o’clock, on a still-warm evening. A metre away from you, a group of people are chatting animatedly. Someone is telling an anecdote, it might be something about a train ride Continue Reading

Due to lockdown most of the colleges and school are shut off and economic activity is negligible affecting the entire world supply chain infrastructure. Due to Lockdown the Small Businesses have faced the brunt unimaginably with millions of MSME Continue Reading

Our societies have advanced tendencies to label certain people ‘winners’ and others logically enough ‘losers’. Aside from the evident meanness of this categorisation, the underlying problem with it is the suggestion that life might be a unitary, singular race, Continue Reading

The modern world firmly equates the intelligent person with the well-read person. Reading books, a lot of books, is the hallmark of brilliance as well as the supreme gateway to prestige and understanding. It’s hard to imagine anyone arriving Continue Reading

In a perfect world, when it came to choosing an occupation, we would have only two priorities in mind: – to find a job that we enjoyed – to find a job that paid us enough to cover reasonable Continue Reading

During these unprecedented and challenging times, it’s important that we all take proactive measures to protect our well-being. This is a wonderful time to re-examine our lifestyle and invest our precious time, energy, and money in our mental and Continue Reading

There’s a pattern that goes like this: it’s late, given when we’ve got to wake in the morning, but instead of going to bed, we stay up. The next day, of course, we feel sluggish and weary and we Continue Reading

It is well understood by good parents that life should only ever get so exciting for a baby: after friends have come around and brought presents and made animated faces, after there has been some cake and some cuddles, Continue Reading

One of major problem faced during pandemic and lockdown is threat to the jobs and livelihoods of millions of people. Companies have gone bankrupt and facing immense loss of capital and revenue, alone in US -30 million people have Continue Reading

The challenge is clear. A large skills gap has emerged with tens of millions of jobs opening around the world for those with advanced digital skills and a shortage of qualified people to fill the positions. Chinese government data Continue Reading

One of the constantly amazing aspects of relationships is just how much reassurance we need to believe that we are actively wanted and, equally, how easy it is to forget this awkward fact both about ourselves and the other Continue Reading

The supposition quickly forms that a person’s loneliness must be explained by something abnormal and troubling within their character. If they are lonely, it is because there are things in their nature that merit for them to be left Continue Reading

It is common to hear that unemploy-ment has been caused by our expertise at mass producing things and standardizing processes; we have become so efficient at making goods and producing services, there is now less work for people to Continue Reading

Without denying that there can be trouble in all social relationships including those between women it’s significant that it is in particular men who struggle to find the friendships they need with other men. Two men are often circling Continue Reading

While politeness is of course always preferable to rudeness, there are ways of being polite that badly miss the mark and can leave us feeling oddly detached and dissatisfied. Picture the person who ends up, despite their best efforts, Continue Reading

One of the most meaningful activities we are ever engaged in is the creation of a home. Over a number of years, typically with a lot of thought and considerable dedication, we asse-mble furniture, crockery, pictures, rugs, cushions, vases, Continue Reading

In many challenges personal and professional we are held back by the crippling thought that people like us could not possibly triumph given what we know of ourselves: how reliably stupid, anxious, gauche, crude, vulgar and dull we really Continue Reading

It seems strange to make a case for hugging. After all, hugging has become deeply fashionable; it’s viewed as an expansive alternative to the handshake, and is intended to suggest a flatteringly warm-blooded informality. Like the peck on both Continue Reading

For most of history, work was not a topic of sustained reflection because it seemed at once so simple, so inevitable and so unpleasant. It was overwhelmingly focused on the provision of basic food and shelter and offered next Continue Reading

When we hear that a couple live 11 time zones apart and can afford to come together only once in a long while, it’s natural to offer sympathy for the pain. We should more fairly envy them for their Continue Reading

We typically spend a lot of time getting the table and food right when we invite others over for a meal; but now that no direct hosting will be possible for a while, we have one small but central Continue Reading

Historically, it is very odd for business people or indeed anyone with an executive role to spend much of their day attending to the needs of their own children. People weren’t heartless, they just didn’t think that it was Continue Reading

A central part of any parent’s responsibility is to prepare children for the challenges of adulthood: getting a job, managing finances, writing timely thank you letters, brushing hair, hanging up wet coats… What is less frequently mentioned is that Continue Reading

A near-universal goal of parents is to try to imbue their children with confidence; to try to lend them the energy, self-belief and courage to eventually be able to act decisively in the world. With sufficient confidence, they will Continue Reading

Infidelity is commonly interpreted as close to the greatest tragedy that could befall any relationship and as the natural, inevitable prelude to the break-up of a union. It is viewed in such dark terms because, under the philosophy of Continue Reading

Once an affair has been uncovered, we often ask in the position of the betrayed, pained party “when it began“. Pinpointing the precise moment promises to shed light on its motivations and on possible ways to prevent any further Continue Reading

What typically happens is fury on one side, and a desperate show of contrition on the other. The person who has had the affair admits that they have done something evidently terrible for reasons that they are in no Continue Reading

The global economy is in the midst of a severe crisis caused by the COVID-19 pandemic. The immediate impact on FDI will be dramatic. Longer term, a push for supply chain resilience and more autonomy in productive capacity could Continue Reading

There is perhaps no greater priority in childhood than to acquire an education: it’s in the early years that we have to push ourselves with special vigour to learn the lessons, and acquire the experience, that will help us Continue Reading

There are plenty of people who look like good friends – but are not; and therefore many of us who don’t feel we should be lonely – but deep down very much are. When it comes to friendship, it Continue Reading

What most of us long for above all else is ‘security’, the sense that we are – at last – safe on the earth. We pin our hopes for security on a shifting array of targets: a happy relationship, Continue Reading

Comment sections online should be the beautiful public squares of our democracies: places we navigate to for frank and thoughtful exchanges of ideas; places where we learn to understand each other’s point of view and where serious discussions evolve Continue Reading

Our society typically devotes huge attention to the start of a marriage and particularly to the actual wedding ceremony. We’re correct that a great deal of thought is needed somewhere. But it’s the continuation of marriage that is of course Continue Reading